Women's Day Love from Zee

They say: Woman, learn to accept yourself coz there will always be someone prettier than you

I say: Pretty by whose standards? Define pretty….I’m a spiritual being destined for eternity, yr boxes will not contain or define me.

They say: Woman, you can be anything you want to be

I say: Who said I need your permission? I am everything I want to be, saying I can means there’s room for failure, how do I fail at being what I AM?

They say: Woman, you can do everything a man can do and do it better

I say: Yeah right, thank you but no thanks I’m comfortable being a woman and am not here to compete with any man

They say: Woman, you can never be in leadership coz you are very emotional

I say: Do not project your insecurities on me

They say: Woman, you should not in any way admit that you’re a sexual being or have an opinion as far as yours sexuality is concerned

I say: Again, do not project your insecurities on me, or are you afraid if I did speak about my sexuality it will expose your selfishness n short comings?

They say: Woman, you need a man to survive in this world

I say: As much as I would love to share my world with a man, he is not my world, as long as I have my faith and mind I will survive this world just fine.

P.S.

From Zee to you my darling women….never forget that you are more than your looks, education and circumstances. Do not fall victim or prisoner of other people’s opinion of what acceptable and grand is. You ARE all you wanna be as long as you trust n practice your faith and apply your mind and free yourself from your own limitations. This world can only see you thru your own eyes. Do not strive for perfection, but be sincere with yourself in your own dealings. Know that this world will always be harsh simply coz you are a woman and it perceives you as weak and inferior. Whatever you do, never write yourself off….if you are not happy with anything you have done, accept that, learn your lesson and do better next time…..stay teachable always. Engrave this in your heart: CREATION was not complete without YOU!!!!

Stay in your lane...

Often a time, when we as humans are faced with situations that seem to challenge us, we have the tendency to react defensively. Others go the venomous, malicious, degrading, name calling, judgmental and talk down at route, while others go the pity me, why me, victim mentality route, while others take the most pretentious self elevating, I don’t care what you think of me route, while very few take the most simple, yet effective think before you act/speak route.

 Let me get straight to the point: nothing in this world is permanent. Today’s weakling can be tomorrow’s life changing hero, whilst today’s hero can be tomorrow’s disgrace. The power is in our minds. Before you react to your challenges think about what that challenge is bringing into your life. The easier it is for you to take offense is directly related to how weak and underfed yr mind is. Do yourself a favor and be your best friend always. Instead of worrying about other people’s opinion of you, worry about the fact that their opinion bothers you that much.

 Take your power back; know that people’s reactions to you are nothing but feedback. Use that feedback to better yourself and your stance in this world. It’s not meant to define you but to refine you. It is never about whether the feedback is true or not, but about what it is meant to teach you about you. You are an eternal being; refuse to live for today when you are destined for forever. Look inside you and be real about you see. Have the courage to ask what are you doing to make this world’s reaction to you better or worse, change what is necessary and life goes on. Stay teachable, and do not let this world dictate your worth and hold you captive to your past and bad decisions.

 Just as the season’s change, the course of your life can too. People can write you off but do not ever write yourself off. If you choose life and start applying your mind accordingly, life will choose you right back. Stay in your lane and concern yourself about the only person you have complete power over and that person is YOU. Remember, we are the world. It is not on the outside but inside each of us, if we change n better ourselves, we change and better the world…..it is never too late!!!

 ZeeK Love...

Where there's a promise, there's intent..

Why is sperm called seed? Self explanatory u might say right...but how readily do we realize the powerful lessons hidden in the nature around us?



Think with me therefore...what really is a seed? In my words a seed is a promise....one that we bury in the ground with the intention to receive a return. The beauty of it all being its ability to multiply and give us more than we actually planted. My dad planted his seed on my mom’s womb and I was born and I was born with a womb that can receive seed and give birth as many times as I want. I was born one but can die multiplied if u get my drift.



Now the reality of this life is things do not always go as planned. Not often do we reap what we sow...at times seeds can be planted on infertile soil, can be eroded by floods but doesn’t make them any less of a promise for multiplication. However, a seed planted on fertile soil, n sprouts to life is a beginning of a journey to perfection. It never sprouts complete but it undergoes different stages until it can be considered full grown n ready to give its own fruit.



You and I were one of the promises that our father planted on our mother’s womb. So here is my point...where there is promise, there is intent to keep it. Regardless of what cards life has dealt you...only you know what stands between you and a complete you, yet whatever it is...it doesn’t change the facts. The fact is you are here now, a promise realized and the intent is for you to realize your great potential.



No matter how many times you have been knocked down and disappointed do not give up, you made it this far, yes perhaps bruised and wounded but who cares, you are still here and you are here to multiply. My pastor said something that blew my mind this past weekend, he said “ Delay is not denial”...and just like you I was uhm...dude, I’ve heard that many times...blah, blah, blah...until he compared that statement to the story of the Lord Jesus 1st miracle of changing water to wine.



When the wine finished at that wedding, Mary came to her son, obviously coz she knew he was a special person who could actually do something about that matter, yet her son answers harshly and claims his hour has not come yet. She goes away disappointed maybe but still goes to the workers and says do whatever he tells u...we all know what happened thereafter, water was changed to wine...not just any wine but the best wine of the day.Right there it all made sense to me...Mary knew the promise she received in her son...even though he had seem to delay in reacting but he had not really denied. And when he finally did react they received the best wine. I am a seed, a promise that’s waiting to be realized to its fullness. Regardless of any obstacle, different up and downs, past victories or defeats, I am a promise and there’s intent to realize me until I give birth to other seeds and circle continues.



I therefore refuse to be a living corpse. I choose to be like Mary n “do whatever he tells u do” per say. Whatever I have to do to better my life I will do. I will take a very close interest in my own life as I do the lives of those I celebrate. From this point on, it matters what choices I’m making, what people I call friends, what influences I allow in my life. I am a seed realized...and the best is yet to come. Just as the wine the Lord Jesus gave was the best....my life from now on will be the best ever, simply because I know better. I have my old life to compare to and create something much better.



You are as much a promise a I am...and the intent is just the same...but unless you to do what you have to do, you run a big risk of being either miscarried or worse be born handicapped and stand no chance of ever being complete or worst come n go and be forgotten and that’s a crying shame.....



ZeeK love...

My thoughts for you in the New Year..

Dear friends,

It is my prayer that the coming year present you with endless opportunities to grow, establish and consolidated every aspect of your life. That you get to realize your full potential as a spiritual being and your discernment increased and purified that you are not only able to be aware of all that is beautiful and rewarding around you, but that you will be even more aware of the evils in you and around you that will constantly be trying to distract you throughout the year.

That you will see results from all the good seeds you planted this year and be granted the wisdom to learn every necessary lesson from all the bad decisions you made in this passing year, so you won’t have to deal with such ever again. I pray that God may be gracious to us all and draw us near to Him, so we can access His strength and power in times when ours are not enough to pull us through the roughness of this world.

Love more, laugh louder and more often, give more of you to those in need….invest more in your spirit, develop your identity, grow a stronger backbone, and stand up for yourself without fear, never be intimidated by anyone or anything, stand for what you believe in…enrich your mind, read more, be more vigilant of parasites and users, protect yourself always, be more of a leader and a trendsetter than just a follower or a groupie…rid your heart of all conceit, hate, and grudges…. they are all unnecessary baggage that will only make your journey heavier. Find true love, be sincere and pure in your actions that you become someone worthy of that true love and appreciation.

To those I had the pleasure of meeting and forming close relations with, thank you for opening your lives to me and can only hope that we will grow together next year. I look forward to more weddings, house warming parties, announcements of new business conquests or ventures, brand forming and less baby showers for single parents, jealousy, strife and more especially much less funerals of young people, alcohol and drug abuse.

This lady here has got nothing but craZEE for y’all and will be routing for your success throughout the coming year.


Much love,
Lady ZeeK

Never been sure....continues

How is it possible? As hard as it is to believe I have been betrayed, by my own family, the people I have looked up to for years, whose teachings have shaped my character and inspired me to be the best I can be, yet here we are today, unspoken enemies…



Not until my God given sista Charmaine decided I should leave Johannesburg for a few days and join her in Durban did it dawn on me, just how I was letting myself down and believing the lie again. Charmaine, Charmaine, Charmaine… the love of my life, my sista from another mother, a chapter on her own, I tell you. Walk with me and I will tell you more about her later. As I was saying, it was not until she dragged me to Durban and surrounded me with our friends that love me, her family showering me with tons of love and crazy attention, even giving me my 1st EID experience with her 2nd family, the Dawood’s in Chatsworth, did it occur to me….I have been here before, this dark painful place of confusion was familiar yet it had lost its sting, these were nothing but kicks of a dying horse, as clear as daylight it dawn on me once more, my circumstances didn’t define me, they never did, n they never will…period!



Despite all the plotting and devious dealings of the other people around me I am still here. My mind forced me to realize that, I can make a choice to curl myself up in the corner, hide my pretty face, and die as others wished or I can listen to my mind and the brilliant ideas that are flooding my head everyday and make something of my life for me. I am not here to impress anyone but me, I am not here to be great so I can brag to anyone or to prove anything to anyone but to me.



So what’s your freaking point Zee…maybe you ask? It’s clear…for every action there is a re-action, it is the law of nature. With every passing day we die, yes we were born to live and live gloriously for that matter, yet we die with each passing second. It’s a spiritual conflict beyond our comprehension, but one thing is for sure, if you was brave enough to be born, you are brave enough to survive anything this world can throw at you…all you have to do is…APPLY YOUR MIND…you are STILL here, regardless of it all.



No matter if your setbacks were self-inflicted or if they were carefully orchestrated by others, they should not define you…you are STILL here, whether for a day, a week, a month, a year, a decade or a freaking millennium, you are STILL here, make yourself count to yourself and nobody else…your life is within you and not in anything or anyone around you, trust me the breath in your nostrils is the Almighty’s and the faith in your heart is a piece of God in you, do not believe the lie…you are not dead yet…you are STILL here, and anything is possible.



Maybe you ask yourself, why should I listen to you, what do you know or better yet who do you think you are to lecture me…this is why I hope you will listen to me, the malicious job loss drama I began this story with, is actually the closing scene of this chapter of my life. A life that began 18yrs ago, a sequence of highest highs and deepest lows, indescribable joy and also unbelievable heart wrenching sadness at times. Are you still not sure? Why don’t I just paint the picture for you and you can draw your own conclusions…



18 years ago I was this young, naïve but extremely curious cute gal….(to be continued)



ZeeK Love

Never been any sure…

…than I am ryt now of my purpose in this world. If there has been anything I’m sure of, was that I was here for reason, come on, all this fabulosity and intelligence just for show? No way, however this past few weeks made it even clearer. Funny enuf that the trigger had to be a malicious attack from people I have trusted with my life for years, crazy huh? Trust me you have absolutely no idea how much, people I am ready to take a bullet for anytime turned out to be the ones pointing the gun at me.….but as I have always said life gets much easier when you are a thinker, coz trust me that grey mass between your ears is more powerful than any weapon of mass destruction if u nurture it well…

About a month ago I lost my job, and all of sudden with no warning, my heart was at the same confused spot I was at a year ago when I got divorced. Granted the people involved in the unbelievable malicious drama of my job loss were the same that were at the centre of the hell I went thru as a result of choosing life and deciding to walk out of a relationship that was draining life out of me with each passing second and they made it their personal mission to make my life harder than it should have been, so I guess it makes sense why all those feelings of hopelessness came flooding back.

Hear I was again in tears all night, some days wouldn’t even eat or wake up from my sofa which had become my new bed and my cave where I hid my face and feelings to my roommate who has become more of a younger sister to me. All the self-pity and rage came flooding back followed by periodic outbursts of rants directed at God for allowing this happen to me over and over again. Am sure as much as it hurt my Father deeply to see me in such pain, he must have also rolled on the floor cracking Himself up at some of my utterances, He is my creator, He knows 1sthand how raw and blunt I can get, believe me…

Ok work with me here, how in God’s wonderful earth am I to survive such crazy accusations and systematic maneuvering orchestrated from the top of the company hierarchy? The past year since my divorce has been an extremely interesting one I tell you. After separation in June last year, I thought hard about staying on at the same company that ex-hubby was involved with, and I was convinced that I was up to the task, anyway my involvement with the company was long before I met him so my loyalty to the company took precedence...it did ryt? Little did I know that those I was loyal to with my life were plotting how to be rid of me with every waking sec of their lives...

Wait at min, how could that be, this is my family, people I have worked side by side with for over 15yrs, have endured massive persecution with, my dedication never shaken regardless the dire n sometimes extremely conditions I was deployed at in different countries around the continent of Africa, their enemies instantly became my enemies at any given time...how could they be holding a gun to my head now?.....(to be continued)

ZeeK love

Impossible task : Tryna make a summer out of a winter

Been pondering this morning on one of the lessons I learnt from one of my role models, motivational speaker Dumisani Kunene, that no winter lasts forever and no summer misses its turn. A true lesson from nature...it is the order of things that is the same for all continents. The difference could be the time and duration that each continent will be subject to such changes but the fact remains all will experience the change of seasons as prescribed by nature and the Almighty.

I guess the key to his teaching for me is having the ability to discern each season in our lives. Many times we find people swimming against wild currents and fighting loosing battles in different aspects of their lives, simple because they have not been able to perceive the season they are currently experiencing in their lives. Nothing is as impossible as tryna make a summer out of a winter. It cannot be done, no amount of will power or positive thinking can change a winter to summer.

It is a blessing in everyone's life to have an impeccable discerning spirit. We are not meant to win every battle in life or to even show up for every battle we are invited to. Sometimes all we need is to adjust our selves, accept the season we are going through so we can dress accordingly so to speak, with certainty in our hearts that this too shall pass, nature around us teaches us that no season is permanent, but if we master this season, we wud have gained the intelligence to tackle the same season when it comes our way again...and come it will, coz so is nature..

Only the ones blessed with that spirit of discernment will even get what I'm saying for what it is...as for the rest 'twill be nothing short of more blah, blah, blah


Zeek Love...